I just want to get some things off my chest. There is a bit of a cathartic feeling writing it online and somewhat anonymously. Maybe even therapeutic. I just want to know one thing, why do women say they want a nice guy but date brutes.
Ok a little background. I'm 43 and single. Ok call me whatever you want. Can't be any worse then what I've called myself many times over. Yes, I am a bit of a recluse, but am getting better. I moved to Dallas a few years ago and am just now starting to make a effort to be more social. Getting back to the gym. Going out to places while trying to avoid the whole bar scene. Not sure how that will work. It seems that is one of the few places large amounts of singles get together.
The thing is I've been told over and over how I am a great guy and yet here I am. The worse thing is that the women who are saying it 9 times out of 10 are dating some of the worst human trash on the planet. I see them get cheated on, controlled, and yelled at. Still they seem to stay with they for whatever reason.
What I end up being a cheap version of your local therapist. I had one friend who would call my house at 12AM. I would pick up to her a crying about her jerk of a boyfriend. When she finally dumps his butt and I ask her out what I got was something like "Well I don't want to ruin our friendship." Of course I'm sure some of you out there have also heard the infamous "I think of you like a brother." What a crock! Women out there, us guys are on to that little bit of fabrication. It's getting to the point though that I want to tell women like this to just shove off. They made their bed, and they can sleep in it with whatever jerk they choose. Who am I kidding though. I am bitter but not heartless. Yes, I'll shut-up and get used, but at least I can live with myself.
It really amazes me. I even talk to my the matriarchs of my family to find out that some of those I respect the most were jerks when they met them. I hear over and over about how they were soooo arrogant. Is this the answer? Do I need to start being an arrogant b****** to get female attention? I know many women out there would reply no, but then if you do don't expect any sympathy from me. You've read the previous paragraphs. I've become rather cynical to those types of comments.
Well I think I've got that out of my system. Have I said that this is pretty cathartic? It's something I've wanted to shout out for along time. Women out there, if you want a jerk then tell the nice guy what you want. At least once you tire of it he can go back to being himself. It will save you the effort and frustration of trying to train him. Most guys can't be trained anyway.
(Warning... sarcasm)
Having said that, it probably won't accomplish anything. However, if I can save 1 women from being mistreated and get a nice guy a date then it was worth the sacrifice.
(end sarcasm)
